Starting that New Book/Chapter ๐Ÿ“–

Have you every thought that you loved someone so so much that you couldn’t imagine your world without them? That the thought of losing them you would somehow lose apart of your identity? I had those thoughts. ๐Ÿ˜‘ I (naively) had thoughts like ,” I’ve had a baby and now have stretch marks, who will want me” or “I’ve been a stay at home wife/mom for x amount of years how am I going to provide?” I was letting fear cripple me, I had lost my identity. I forgot that “loving” someone else was not code for putting yourself on the backburner and/or “disappearing”. “Loving” someone else does not mean putting your happiness aside for that Girl/Boy, it does not mean that you keep tolerating or accepting that same Hurt over and over and over again. I keep putting “love” in quotations right now because what I’m describing is not  not love in my eyes. In my opinion ,”love” when it is unhealthy, turns into comforabitlity, something that’s familiar, fear or holding on to an idea. I’m not saying if a mistake happens to run for the hills or cut everything off. I am aware that people are not perfect and you have to work on certain things , learn from it, grow and get past it. I just feel like that’s how things should be. It shouldn’t be a  I made a mistake, I said I’m sorry,  let’s move forward then  2..3..4 months later oh shoot I’m sorry I made the same mistake or a similar one and then continue that cycle. Again this is my opinion. I have personally learned that if someone shows me something ( some type of lie,deceit, immaturity) whether it be a “friend” someone I’m trying to get to know, I see it for what it is and will move on lol. When someone shows you a glimpse of who they truly are believe them. Don’t let being comfortable with someone or being so consumed with their happiness allow you to dismiss your own happiness. Do not put up with things because you may be afraid to be alone or start over. Don’t be afraid to close a chapter or the whole damn book. When there is Love, it is enough for everyone meaning you will see it being reciprocated. Starting a new chapter/book is hard, it sucks and will entail lots of prayer and probably crying. It will be hard to see that light at the end of the tunnel , but oh honey when you do… It will be one  the best rewarding lights you will ever discover. Those thoughts you may have had will be gone, the love for yourself comes back with so much vengeance you will not be able to process how you did not love yourself this much before. You will see things so much clearer and be happy. So Starting that new book/chapter once you realize it’s time to do so is a great thing. In my new book, I love me, I have my limits when it comes to what I will and will not accept and I’ve seen my confidence blow up. There comes a time when you have to stop blaming one another, stop walking on eggshells afraid to talk to each other, being ungrateful  and seeking validation. You never know what the future will bring, maybe paths will cross again but if they do or if they don’t at least your path will be a happy one.  Until Next Time my friends, Be Kind to One Another ๐Ÿ˜Š
Kandiss ๐ŸŒป

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